10.14.19 - Recently have been seeing couples with young kids that are having difficulty with balance and family life stressors. School starting, sports and activity commitments and two career couples bringing lots of work home on the computer at night spell - problems. We need to set boundaries - say no to: too much sports, afterschool and night time activities, work to leave as much of your job on the job and spend more evening family time together - talking with each other. Couples also need to plan some date nights - get out and talk and listen to each other without distractions (shut the phone off!). What do you talk about? Thoughts, feelings, plans and some goals related to the family, your career and your relationship. Relationships that aren't maintained can get stale and become problematic. Prevention pays dividends in the family.